Thursday, April 26, 2007

 

Just...gone




You'd better sit down for this.


God, I don't even know how to say this, although I've said it a thousand times today--to friends and neighbors, over the phone, in my head, endlessly.




My parents. They're dead.


Mom and Dad. Both gone.




They were on their way here. To meet their new granddaughter, to watch as Thomas made his first Holy Communion, and to celebrate the Brownie's 6th birthday. At 6:40 this morning, they were on the highway. In front of them, some hours earlier, a tractor-trailer had jack-knifed and a wrecker was pulling it off the road. Traffic was temporarily stopped as the tow-truck did its work. My parents were at the head of a line of cars, right in front of the jack-knifed semi.

Behind them, though, another semi came upon the scene. For reasons known only to the driver, it didn't slow down, but slammed full speed into the line of stopped cars. The accident was so bad, it made it briefly onto the morning news cycle on CNN. Eight people were killed in the ensuing pile-up, my parents last of all. Their Jeep was driven into and under the stopped semi in front of them. Mom and Dad were killed on impact.

The state police called the house in New Hampshire, but when my Big Brother didn't answer, they called the next person in the phone book with my family's last name. They got my uncle (my dad's brother) and he got his sister's husband (my uncle David) and together they went looking for BB, finding him at the post office at around 10, where he was getting the mail. BB slumped on the hood of his car and called me on his cell phone. I was at work when I got the call. When he told me, I didn't cry or scream or collapse. Everything just went numb. My face, my tongue, my hands and feet. Everything.

Ten hours later, and after about 50 phone calls, including one with the state trooper who was on the scene, and one with the county coroner who needs to perform an autopsy (they're filing criminal charges against the driver of the semi that failed to slow down. He survived the crash. Insert ironic comment here); after calling my aunt Cathy and telling her her only sister is dead; after calling my boss and telling her I'll be out of the office for a while because I have to bury my parents; after getting my kids out school early and, oh God, sitting them down and telling them Grandma and Papa won't be coming to visit after all, or ever again; after all of that, I still feel numb. I'm still in shock. Still waiting for it to hit. Like a semi.

I have so much to say I find that the words are logjammed and nothing's getting out. Those of you who read here regularly know how much I loved my parents, what joy it gave me to tell stories of them, what pride I took in seeing the pleasure they got from being with my children. Growing up, I did not always have the best relationship with them, especially my Dad. But that was years in the past and I was looking forward to decades more of being with them. They were not meant to die like this, not before I got the chance to introduce them to their new granddaughter; not before I got the chance to repay just a small fraction of the countless kindnesses they performed for me; not before I got a chance to tell my Mom one more time how much I loved her; not before I got a chance to tell my Dad one more time how much I admired him; not before I got the chance to tell them both how lucky and proud I am to be their son.

I can't say for sure when I'll be back--there's just too much going on right now and still very little that's been settled. Eventually, there will be a service and a burial in New Hampshire, but not yet. For now, I have to wait while investigations are concluded, coroners and funeral homes conduct their business, and my brother and I are told at last that we can take Mom and Dad home.

If you're the praying kind, please say a prayer for my parents, and for the six other people who died today. Say a prayer for their families, too. And while you're at it, say a prayer for the driver of that semi. Pray that God will forgive him. I can't quite bring myself to.

Yours,
From Somewhere on the Masthead


Comments:
Oh, MM, I am so sorry.

You and your family are all in my thoughts.

...Fiona.
 
My God. no.

MM. I cannot find any words.

My heart, my prayers. Everything i can muster. It's on its way to you, and the family.
 
I am so very sorry.
 
So, so, so sorry. I can't even imagine. My thoughts will be with you and your family.
 
I am so very sorry. I am at a loss for words so I will pray for all of you.
 
Mark just emailed me and then I came here. Words can't say how sorry I am.

Lots and lots of prayers (and hugs) coming your way.

Kathryn
 
I felt the same way as you did, MM, after my father died. Numb. I've written this comment over and over trying to find something meaningful to share or words to express my sorrow and I'm not having any luck. I will just say your parents seemed like great people, and thanks for letting us know them a little bit through your writings on here. My deepest sympathy.
 
I'm so sorry, MM. My thoughts are with you.

We all loved your parents too.
 
I am so sorry!!!!!!!! oh mm, I don't even know you, but what a horrible thing to happen to you and yours. so very sorry.
 
I am so very, truly sorry for your loss. What an awful, awful thing to happen.
 
I'm so very sorry to hear this horrible news. I can't imagine how it must be for you and your family.
 
MM,
I've enjoyed your blog for some time. I'm so sorry to read this -- my heart seized when I read the words. I will be saying prayers for you and your family.

~Stacie
 
Oh my gosh I'm so sorry.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

May the memories of your parents always be a blessing.
 
May the Lord bless them and keep them close to his heart. And I pray - although I am the lapsed praying-type - that Mother Mary will keep a hand free for your family. I'm terribly sad for you, and for your children and HLS. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Dear MM,

I'm sending every good thought your way. I am so, so very sorry.

With deepest sympathy and heartfelt wishes for you and all of your family,

Merujo
 
I'm sitting down but I don't feel like I'm sitting down enough somehow.

For you, that feeling must be ten-thousand fold or more. I'm so sorry.
 
MM,

So sorry for your loss. Please hug Thomas and Brownie for us all. As you grieve, take time to help them through this. I know you will.

Gary
 
MM I pray you and your family find strength when you need it most. It was clear to all of us how much you loved your parents and they clearly loved you in return. I'm glad you got the chance to have a better relationship with your father.Thinking of you and your family, Aquilegia
 
I am so sorry to read this, MM. No words seem adequate, but I want you to know I'm thinking of you and your family.
 
Oh, MM...You have every prayer I have tonight.
 
Oh, my God. I don't live far from where this happened and I saw it on the news this morning. I just now read the details online. I was shocked to then come to your site and find out it was your parents. I'm so, so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family. Hard to know what to say. May you be loved and comforted by those around you.
 
My humblest and most sincere condolences. I'm sorry I'm so far away at the moment.

They entered Heaven together, if that's any consolation. At least it is for me. I don't pretend to know G-d, but if The Lord saw fit to take them, He took them quickly and at the same time, which is a blessing in itself.

May G-d watch over you and your entire family.
 
Oh my God. I'm so, so sorry. I know that there's nothing to say here that will help, but know that I am thinking of you, and of them, and of your family.

Based on everything I've read here about your parents and your relationship with them, I am absolutely certain that they knew how much you loved and admired them both, and how proud and lucky you felt to have them—even without you getting the chance to tell them one more time. Not that that makes the pain lessen, but if I knew it (and I'm a complete stranger), then they most certainly did too. You have my deepest sympathy.

Laura
 
MM,

I am so so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I could (we could,your blog friends)) say or do to help ease the incredible shock and loss.

Just know that we're here.

I have always marveled at what an amazing father you are - and your parents would have said the same. I am very sorry that they didn't get to meet their new granddaughter.

Take care of yourself and your family, and also let them take care of you.

Tamara
 
At times like this I wish I was half the writer you are.

Your family has been an inspiration to all of us - I'm so, so sorry that part of you has been taken away.

Sending you many prayers and wishes for strength. We are all here for you.
 
Oh geez. I can't stop crying. I am so sorry for you and for little Elizabeth who will never get to meet these wonderful people. This may sound like a weird thing to say, but I am particularly worried about your brother. Please keep a steady eye on him for the next year. I wish you the best as you cope with this tragedy in the coming weeks. My heart is broken.
 
I keep reading, and re-reading your post, hoping somehow it will change...

In the days to come, try to remember that they knew how much you loved them. They loved you too; They were proud of you, they adored HLS and there was never any question of how devoted they were to their grandchildren.

All of our prayers are with you and your entire family tonight, and in the days ahead.

I am so very, very sorry.

(((hugs)))

Thim
 
I read with mounting horror and grief. I think the worst is that it was all so senseless and unnecessary. So sorry, MM. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
 
I read your blog regularly..I am shocked and saddened by your loss. My condolences and love to you and your beautiful family...
 
My deepest, heartfelt condolences.

Words on a screen seem such tawdry, insignificant things at a time like this... and yet... for what it's worth, after reading your story The Family Tree, I don't believe the memory of your parents will ever fade while their son can write so movingly...
 
I am so sorry for your losses. You and your family are in my prayers.
 
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with your whole family.
 
I have no idea what to say...but I know I want to say something. I am SO very sorry. God bless you and your family.
 
Mother of God.

I don't know of what possible use I can be right now, brother,but if there's anything I can do—anything at all—give me a call.

In fact, give me a call anyway.
 
Sometimes there are just no words big enough.

I am so, so sorry.
 
My heart breaks for you and your family. Prayers and healing thoughts ---> If I can help in any other way, please let me know. I'm so sorry, so very, very sorry.
 
I am deeply deeply sorry. My heart goes out to you and your brother and of course your wife and children as well.

We will most certainly be saying a prayer for all of you tonight.

I lost my own father 12 years ago, and I cannot even imagine how devastating it must be to lose both parents at once. Sending you much strength and yes, love.
 
MM & Family - I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the roller-coaster of having a new baby to this...

You are all in my thoughts and prayers!!
 
Oh my God.

I wish I knew the words to say, but I'm at a loss. Just a complete loss for words.

You are in my thoughts, MM. I am truly sorry.
 
MM:

There aren't words.

My love and prayers, to you and yours .

Jim
 
Father, please be with MM and his family. I do not pretend to know your will and I have no ability to comfort this man I have never met but feel as if I have. But you do. You know him, you love him and I pray you comfort him as only you can. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
 
Oh my gosh. I am just speechless, absolutely speechless. I am so sorry.

You and your family are in my prayers.
 
MM,
Your family is in my prayers.
Kef...
 
Oh, MM. I can't imagine how you are feeling right now. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
 
I lost my mother over a year ago suddenly. It was devastating. I can't imagine losing BOTH.

I had a feeling something went wrong. So much joy with a new baby and you weren't sharing it.

Felt like something heavy hit me when I read this. I'm so sorry for your loss. You've mentioned them so often...
 
Oh my God.
I'm so sorry. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Thank you for sharing your parents with us MM. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. "I'm sorry" just doesn't ever seem enough.
 
I'm sobbing after reading this. Know that if you were able to express your love and admiration to a perfect stranger this well, then your parents certainly knew how you feel about them. I can't begin to express the sympathy I'm feeling for each member of your family right now, not least of all your new daughter who hadn't yet had the chance to meet your folks. I'm so sorry and wish there were a way to help you all through this.
 
Your beautifully written stories about your family have been wonderful to read. We will all miss your parents.

Deb S.
 
I can't imagine the shock that you are feeling. I am so sorry. I saw the CNN clip and was horrified at the devastation of the crash and then to hear that it was your family is just heartbreaking.

My prayers are with you and your family.
 
I am truly sorry for you and your whole family. The recent joy of little Eclair, and then this unspeakable sorrow...you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
I ache so much for you and your family, MM. The word "sorry" simply isn't big enough.

Your parents were incredible people and all your readers feel so blessed that we, in some small way, got to know them. Know that we're sharing in your tears and wishing only the best for you and your beautiful family. May God bless you all.
 
Got the word from Sull, who sings your praises, and I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.

My God bless and keep you through this.
 
i am here from kfarmer's site. please know that although i've never read you until today, you have my most heartfelt sympathy. i pray that your broken heart may find healing and comfort and that the people closest to you may be a source of strength in the days ahead.
 
all my prayers, thoughts, and strength go out to you and your family.
 
I'm so sorry - You, your family, and those other families will be in my prayers. May God be with you and watch over you in these next days and weeks and give you the strength to do all you have to do, and may you still find some joy in His world, with the miracle that is your newest little on.
 
I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you.
 
I am so very, very sorry.

-Carrie
 
MM, I am SO sorry...for what little that means. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Praying for comfort and strength for all of you.
 
MM and family,
Suldog was right, there just aren't anywords to express my sympathy to you all. Having read your accounts and tales some of us feel as though we know you and yours, and your heartbreak becomes ours. May our sympathies and shoulders help you bear this grief and may the Mother hold you all close in this time of trial.
Know that you are all in our thoughts and hearts and that you are not alone. We are here for you whenever you are ready for us.
Love always,
Alison in Quebec, Canada
 
oh my god, MM.

I've been reading for a long time and it was clear how much you loved and admired your parents.

I'm so sorry for your loss. :(
 
I am so sorry for your loss. May the warmth of friends and family help you through this difficult time.

-Andrea
 
I've been reading your blog for quite some time. I'm horrified to have such a terrible occasion to finally comment-- but I wanted you to know that, through your stories, your parents have touched people far and wide, that people that even -you- haven't heard of are here, mourning their loss. Please take good care. Hug your kids tight-- smell your new baby's neck-- and remember that you've helped your parents share a legacy far beyond their geographical location.
-May in Toronto
 
Oh, God. How horrible. Our prayers are with you all. I'm just stunned and horrified. I'm sure you all are, too.
 
I'm so, so sorry.
 
Very sorry to hear this.
I have read about your early years with Dad and how you have moved past it all in recent years. Best thing you could have done.
I keep thinking of the great posts you made this summer about going up north to visit.
Keep those thoughts with you.
 
I'm so, SO sorry. :( My thoughts are with you and your family.
 
My god, I'm so far beyond sorry for you and your family. I'm glad you have each other to lean on while figuring out how to get through this, -- and for what it's worth, I could tell in every word you wrote just how much you love both of your parents -- and I'm sure they knew that too. You repaid them by being an amazing father, husband, brother and son.
 
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
We weep for you since you can't yet do it for yourself.

I fear this will be even tougher for BB, but I know you'll do what you can for him.
 
I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to your & yours. God be with you.
Shannon
 
I can't say anything that all the people ahead of me haven't said.

I think it's a testament to your parents that all these people from all over the country and the world, many who have never even met you, seen you, or figured out your name (myself included) are sending you their condolences and best wishes.

We think what we do of you because of the man you are, the man that your parents raised you to be. We owe them our thanks and our appreciation for you. We mourn the loss of them with you, and we pray for you and them also.
 
I'm so sorry for you and everyone in your extended family and friends.

Terrible.
 
I'm sorry, MM.
 
I am the praying kind ... and I know God is listening to all the prayers being said on your behalf today.

I am so sorry for your devastating loss.
 
I'm so sorry. Please know that Mother Mary got the family prayer chain in gear right after Jack spoke with her this morning.

I always think of your Dad shouting "Rally 'round the flag, boys!" as the tent crashed down on J+D's wedding reception.

There's a hole in the middle of a pretty good life. We won't forget them.
 
I am so sorry MM... My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family... We are all here for you my friend....
 
Shocked and so sorry to hear this horrible news. My deepest sincere sympathy.
 
How utterly awful for all concerned. My prayers, of course.

Ian
 
holy f**k...I'm so deeply sorry. Thank you for sharing the many stories of your parents, there memory will live on in our hearts and minds. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We are always here for you.
 
Condolences.

An old colleague
 
I live half an hour away from where it happened. If there is anything I can do, please call my cell phone at (local area code) 807-2956.

I am sorry this has to be my first post on your site.
Melissa J.
 
My deepest, sincerest condolences to you and your family. I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel, particularly in the wake of your recent joyous news. I wish all of you strength throughout this time.
 
I am new here, sent by Suldog, but I wanted to say I am so sorry to hear this.
 
There are tons of us who follow your blog and feel like we know you. What a beautiful and horrible week for you. It seems so insufficient to say we are sorry, but we are. You have shared peeks into your life, and now have virtual friends pulling for you. Congratulations on the new baby, but deep condolences and prayers for you and your family for your loss.
 
You don't know me, but I was sent here by one of your blogging friends and I just want to say how deeply sorry I am for your loss. You have lots of prayers going your way.
 
I am so sorry, I can't image the pain. My thoughts and prayer be with you and your family.
 
MM, I am not the praying type.
But I am so so sorry.
I really am in tears reading this.
I just can't imagine how horrible that must have been.
I hope you come through okay.
 
Oh, MM, sorry is a poor reflection of what we all feel for you and yours right now, and yet it's the only word that comes to mind. The numbness will pass, violently and cruelly it will pass--and I'll be even sorrier for you then. I know that ache--the feeling of being denied even just one more chance, one more moment to show, even without words, with just the look in your eyes just what they meant, how far you'd come together, and how much love there is. You'll feel gypped for the rest of your life.

In our church we say "families are forever," and I believe that, very strongly. Your parents are not lost to you. I won't trouble you with the particluars of that bit of doctrine right now. Just take comfort in the knowledge that they are still there for you; it'll just be a while before you all get to have that visit you had planned.

Also, forgiveness is real, and what's more it feels really good. It's not for him (the trucker); it's for you. The easiest way to get there, to a place where you can even begin to feel like you might be able to forgive, is through gratitude. Make yourself remember what you have-- HLS, Thomas, The Brownie, and now The Eclair; choose to remember everything that is good and right in your world. Gratitude leads to humility; humility leads to godliness; godliness leads to forgiveness.

Don't let that poison stay in your soul. Get on your knees until you get there.

You're all in our hearts and prayers. Love to all of you.
 
MM,

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Even though I don't know you or your parents, your family has touched my life through your stories. Thanks for letting us know so we can continue to pray for you.

~Emily
 
I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. May you find solace in your many happy memories of the good times spent together.

Jen
 
I don't know what to say, other than I am sorry.

Gather your family around you and celebrate having known your parents as best you can.

And know we're thinking of you.
 
I also saw the CNN clip; you have my most heartfelt sympathy. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.
 
I'm so sorry for what you and your family must be going through now. My father died a few months ago, and I still cry every day about it. Telling my 5 year old that he wasn't going to see his grandpa agian was the hardest thing I have ever done. The second hardest was explaining the finality of death.
My thoughts are with you.
 
Like many here, I haven't words at hand to express what I feel for you and yours today. But know that you are all in my thoughts. Just imagine that all these messages are a huge world encompassing cyber hug for BB, you, HLS, Art Lad, The Brownie, and The Eclair. We may not know you, but you have made us all part of your family. For which you have my thanks...Blessed Be.
 
After reading your blog regularily for over a year, I feel that in some small way, I know you and your family.

I can't imagine what you are going through, but when I read your post I was also numb. I know there are not words to express what you, and your family are feeling, but know that there are hundresd of people wishing you well.
 
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Your parents sounded like such warm, caring and dynamic people that I cannot imagine the hole in your world right now. Please know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
 
I am truly sorry for your loss.
 
MM, I am so very, very sorry for your loss...

You and your precious family are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Oh my...MM, this will probably get lost in the sea of comments, but please know that my heart is absolutely broken for you. I can't help but fall to my knees in prayer for you. Much love to you and your family from Boston right now...take as long as you need. We'lll all be here when you get back.

Jesus...
 
Dear MM & BB, I'm so sorry for your troubles. pj
 
My deepest sympathy to you and your family, MM.

I'm just an anonymous lurker who's laughed (and cried) after reading your blog for about 2 years now, so I know that my words will be hollow. But I am wishing you and your family some comfort in this time. You will all be in my thoughts.

Once again, you have my deepest sympathy.

-Leesa
 
MM... I'm speechless. I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am for you and your family... God. I enjoyed reading your stories about your parents so much... thank you for letting us get to know them through your writing.

Know that a little Catholic church in rural Indiana will be praying for your family, and you will continue to be in my thoughts.

Keep strong...
 
Oh, dear. MM, you have my deepest sympathies. I'm so sorry.
 
I felt like throwing up when I read this today.

Please know that so many people have you in their prayers as you deal with everything.

I miss them and I didn't even know them.
 
I am so, so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
 
...

I'm so sorry for your loss, MM and to your family.
 
There are no words.

Thoughts coming your way.
 
I can't say anything that the countless other caring readers already have. But my heart aches for you and your beautiful family. You are all an inspiration about how what a real family is. I'm sorry for the terrible loss yours is suffering.

Deepest sympathies and most fervent prayers

- Babs, Less Traveled By
 
I am so so sorry. I cannot even imagine such a horrible thing.
 
I know you don't know me, but, please accept my sincerest sympathy and prayers for you and your family.

I am so sorry.
 
I'm sorry too. I heard about the accident on our local news and heard about the 8 who died. It was sad when I didn't know anyone...it's worse now knowing "of" two of them.

I truly am very sorry for the loss in your family.
 
Was so shocked the first time I tried to read the posting that I shut it down, couldn't read it. Can't imagine how you are all feeling.

I'm so sorry for you and your family.

One day you and your children will be grateful for your skills in immortalizing your parents with pen and paper. Your stories here will be treasures.

Take care
 
You and your family are in my thoughts.

I've been a reader since nickerson linked to the Blaze saga, and have been hooked since... Even perusing the archhives to catch up.

Over the last few months I've read so many heart felt stories about your parents, especially your father - the building of the fox-hole, their past visits, etc, and your love for them just seeps off the page in every story.

I am so very sorry for your loss.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your parents, MM, my thoughts are with you and your family. Please take extra-special care of yourselves at this time, and especially BB, I think he'll need some TLC right now more than any of you, although you are all experiencing the same loss.
 
MM -

Nothing new here, other than to add that you and your family are in our thoughts here, too.
 
So, so sorry for your loss. Never commented before, but have read most of your entries and it was very clear how much your parents meant to you.
 
I randomly stumbled upon your blog today. I'm sitting here at work at my desk crying for you. I love my parents so very much and to have them gone like that scares the shit of out me.

I don't pray but today I will be thinking of you every moment.
 
I'm so very sorry.
 
Thank you, MM, for taking the time to let us know.

Prayers are being sent.

And they know of your pride and your love - as does everyone who has had the privilege of reading about them here.

Suzanne
 
"Shared pain is lessened; shared joy, increased — thus do we refute entropy." -Spider Robinson

Thank you for sharing your family with us. Ups and downs. The feelings generated by your news, both good and bad, just serve to show how much you have touched other people's lives. I find I miss your folks now without having ever met them. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your loved ones. Take care.
 
I am so so sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.
 
I'm so very sorry for your loss. What a terrible tragedy.
 
Oh my god, MM.

I was hoping it was a cruel joke to grab attention after the first couple of lines, but.. it wasn't. I'm speechless and heartbroken about this. Like a few of the others, I saw the story and pictures on CNN and now I feel sick. I can't help but cry.

I'm so sorry. I know that isn't enough; it never truly is. My thoughts and prayers are with the Magazine family.
 
MM,

I write with tears streaming down my cheeks. I write with a pain in my heart and a lump in my throat. I write while an endless loop of "Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God," goes through my head.

You wrote so eloquently of your family that I doubt anyone who has read of them does not feel some shock and grief at your so sudden loss.

I can offer nothing but my deepest sympathies. Take care of yourself.
 
When I saw the title I feared the baby had died. But the truth was just as bad.
 
I'm so, so sorry, MM. Reading this post again the next day just made everything hit harder for me.

I cry with you and your family.


Kirk
 
You have made my sides ache with laughter, my blood boil with anger (saving Blazey)and my heart fill with pride as a fellow parent of children too quick witted for their own good. Today my heart broke with you as well. You are a master of words, and yet there simply aren't any to express how sad I am for all of you.
Thank you for sharing your parents with us. The good, the bad, all of it, will be remembered forever.
 
No words. Only tears, and prayers.
 
Oh no. I can hardly believe it, and can't express how sad and sorry I am about this.

Keeping you and your family in prayer MM.
 
I'm a new (avid) fan of Masthead, and just decided to check in to see how the three kids are doing. When I read your opening words, I thought, Oh, no, this has to be a set-up to one of his crazy stories. But no . . . What heart-breaking timing, not that it's ever easy at any time. You're in my thoughts.
 
Since I discovered your blog almost two years ago I have never missed a post. Through your humour, your honesty and your eloquence you have allowed me to get to know your wonderful family. I doubt that there is any consolation I could possibly offer, but I am praying for you and your family. Your parents have touched so many through you and I'm sure that they know very well exactly how you felt about them. It shines through your words.
 
sending love and peace and prayer to you.
 
fuck....just do not know what else to say. My heart goes to you and all of your family, BB, HLS, Brownie, Thomas, the Eclair and everyone else I cannot name off the top of my head.
 
I'm here from CMHL, I have prayed for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.
 
Peace to you, my friend. I am more than inspired that you have already started wishing for forgiveness.

And I'm moved beyond words that you would climb onto the computer and share this with us.

Thank you. Whatever way I offer peace and prayer to the world, I send it to you.
 
I'm a reader and have never posted before.

I'm so sorry and my heart is aching for you and your family. My deepest sympathy to you and yours.
 
So it goes, so it goes.
 
My heart is broken for you all, and you'll remain in my thoughts. Though we've not lost nearly what you have, for those of us who read here regularly, your folks were part of our family too. The world is just too quiet tonight.
 
There aren't words that can adequately express how much you and your family are loved, even if we are largely a group of unknown people who read your blog. We will wait patiently for you to return to the challenge of blog-writing...and, if I may presume to speak for everyone here, we are all prepared to give you our virtual shoulders to lean on when you are ready to make a return. It's not a lot, but it is what we (your faithful readers) are able to provide you with.

Our thoughts are with you and yours, MM. I lost both my parents in one quick tragedy and I know how it feels to want to be devoid of feeling and how senseless it will remain to be. Hug BB for us.

Angel & Family
 
I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
 
I am so terribly sorry. I am praying for you and your family.
 
Oh MM, I haven't been here in ages. I got word from Colleen to pop in and I am so sorry to read your words.

I am heartbroken for your family's loss. I am praying for you and yours. Peace.
 
MM, this is so tragic. I am beyond speechless and devastated for you, as 5 years ago the parents of a close friend were killed THE EXACT SAME WAY,by a semi, rear-ended at a construction zone. I have been reading you for some time, and although I do not know you I am suddenly overwhelmed with the same wave of grief and loss, anger and disbelief that I felt years ago for my friend. My heart goes out to you and your family. Such immense joy from the birth of a child, followed by tremendous loss and grief... my heart aches for you and yours. Peace to you all, and deepest sympathy and prayers.
 
I am so sorry for your loss--I have read (and read out loud to my wife) your posts for more than a year: the funny ones, the not-so-funny ones, and the ones that made your heart leap. But there were few as powerful and touching as the ones featuring your folks either today or in the past.

My heart goes out to you, BB, and your whole family.

- Paul
 
I'm so horribly sorry for your loss. My prayers are with your family.
 
I am from around the way. I read of you at Mydogischelsea's.

You have my sincere sympathy. That you've remained cogent enough to write and talk to your children is a blessing and testament to your strength.

All have my thoughts with them and you as well.
 
I'm so sorry and am sending all my best thoughts your way.
 
I feel so sad for you and the other families who lost loved ones. I send you my best wishes for your healing. What a terrible shock.
 
This is my first time stopping by your blog. I came over via Suldog. I just want to say how sorry I am about your parents. You and your family are in my prayers. Take care.
 
MM, I am in shock. What a wide range of emotions you have gone through over the past week. I can't even begin to imagine, having never had a child, nor lost a parent (much less two). You have been in my thoughts all day long and will remain in them for a long time to come.
 
I am so sorry. So very sorry.

Bless you and your family as you deal with this tragedy.
 
MM,
I'm so terribly sorry. I will pray for you all. I can't imagine how you must feel. I wish there was something I could do. You take your time getting back to us.
 
My heart breaks for you and your family. You are in my prayers.
 
I am so sorry. There are never any words that a person can say that can make this any better. But please know I will keep you and your family in my thoughts a prayers.
 
I came over from Crouching Mommy, Hidden Laundry today. Not a usual reader here but I offer my prayers and thoughts just the same.

I am so very sorry.
 
After so many tears of joy over the stories of you and your family, it is that much worse to have these tears of sadness. I came here today (and every day, even when you were only writing biweekly) to get a bit of a lift in a normal everyday day. You have provided so many ups, whether I was up or down, that I wish I could think of some set of words to make this make perfect sense, but I can not. I only hope that you and your family find the strength to celebrate their lives, and to continue celebrating all the good they brought to this world.
 
I cannot begin to fathom your pain right now. Your writings about your parents always showcased your love for them. My prayers are with you, your family, the families of the other six and I will pray for forgiveness for the semi driver.

Take care of yourself, that new baby needs you.
 
I feel so sorry for you my prayers are with your family:-)
 
May the angels lead them into Paradise and may the saints go out to greet them and welcome them into the new and eternal Jerusalem.

Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord and perpetual light shine on them.

May their souls, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

My prayers, also, for you and your family.
 
oh my God! I'm so, so sorry MM. as muslims, when someone dies, we say "to Him we belong, and to Him we return." I'll be praying for your parents, your family, and the other families as well. This is so .. overwhelming.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
 
Oh God MM, I am so sorry. I've been a bit out of the blogosphere this past week, because my mother died from unforseen complications due to cancer surgery, the day before The Eclair was born. We had the memorial on the 26th. You have my absolute sympathy, and prayers of support from me and my family to yours. As much as I've just been thru, I can't possibly fathom what you're going thru. If there's anything that we can do, please let us know (iamhoff@gmail.com)

Hoff
 
I am truly sorry for your loss....tears are streaming down my face after reading your post.

I could feel how much you loved your parents through everything you have written about them.

I will say prayers for your family.

Peace and love to you all.

A frequent reader from Nova Scotia, Canada
 
I've never read before but want to say how sorry I am. There are no words to say in a time like this, but I will be praying for you and yours. My thoughts are with you....
 
I am so sorry for your loss.

Prayers going out as requested.
 
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your post brought me to tears and I don't know you at all. I can't even imagine what you're going through. My thoughts are with you and your family.
 
I am very sorry to read of the untimely death of your parents.
You write well, and i am sure they knew you all loved them.
They would expect you to miss them, and to grieve,
but they would not want this to cause problems for any of
their kin.
They loved you and yours too.
There is not much i can add to the messages here,
your brother has been mentioned twice ...

My thoughts are with you and yours as you find your way
through this difficult time.

God bless,
John.
 
I am so sorry. You and your family will be in my prayers.
 
Oh, MM. I am so very sorry. You and your family will be in my heart, prayers, and thoughts. I don't even know what else to say. Nothing can express how heartbroken I am for you all. I only wish there were something I could do for you. Please know that we're all here for you whenever you're ready to come back.
 
MM- I've never seen your blog until just now. I followed you over here from a link on CMHL's blog.

I'm so very sorry for the sudden and tragic death of your parents.

I will offer up a prayer for your family, for the families of the others that were killed, and even for the semi truck driver that caused the accident.

Again, I'm so sorry.
 
MM,

Holy Mary, Mother of God.

There are no words.

Please, call me.

You have my contact info, you know how to find my home phone. I do not have yours. Please, call. The first thing I wanted to do today, when I read your post was call you.

I'm right next door in Mass, if there is anything I can do, I want to. If I can give BB a hand, please, let me know. If there is anything, anything I can do to help you or your family, I will be there in a heartbeat.

Sharfa
 
MM, I am so, so sorry.
 
I am so sorry MM. I can't even begin to imagine what you and your family are going through. I've been reading your blog for over a year now, and I feel like your family is a part of my family. Thank you for sharing your wonderful family with us all. Your parents will be missed my more people than you can imagine. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I wish there was something that we could all do to help you through this difficult time.

~Jinger
 
Just another pebble in the pond, but I wanted to offer my condolences to you and yours. I enjoyed reading about your parents, I knew you loved and admired them and they must have known too. I pray for you and yours.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for your family. My prayers are with you, your parents and the others that were lost that day. God Bless you all.
 
Melissa J and Sharfa:

would you please email me

scmatharveedotorg?
 
If there's ever a reason to pray, it's for you and your family in this time of loss. *hugs*
 
I have been reading you long enough (though I mainly lurk) that I feel like I know you and your family a tiny, tiny bit. When I opened your blog last night and read about your parents I couldn't believe it. I just started saying, No. I wish it wasn't true. I'm holding you all in my prayers. I'm so very sad for you all.
 
There are not enough sorry's for this. Many prayers for all your requests.

With sympathy,
 
I have laughted and cried along with many of your stories. Now, I sit here crying for your loss, for your family's loss and by extention for the loss, pain, grieve we all feel when people we love die.
I will hold you all in my thoughts in the days, weeks and months ahead.
 
I am so sorry. I happened on your blog from Crouching Mother, Hidden Laundry...I am praying for your family and the families of the other victims...I am so sorry.
Tamara in Tennessee
 
gator - tried e-mailing you. You can e-mail me at sharfa84atyahoodotcom
 
Words fail me. I'm so sorry this happened. You and your family will be in my heart.
Lissa
 
Hello,

I don't know you, but I read about your parents tragic death from another blog. My Father died suddenly and unexpectedly in his sleep, three weeks ago. the morning after Easter. I understand the pain and numbness that you feel and how you wish that you had the moment to tell them that you loved them, how wonderful they were, and even to hear their voices say your name one more time. I will be praying for you!!

A friend
 
And regardless of what words she said, your mother knew you were perfect.
 
this is my first visit to your blog, and there really aren't words adequate enough to say "I'm sorry," but I did want to extend my deepest condolences on the loss of your parents. How very tragic and senseless. My prayers are with your family.
 
My deepest, deepest sympathies
 
MM,

I wanted to thank you for bringing your parents to life here on this blog, just as you have so skillfully brought yourself, HLS, Art Lad, the Brownie, and now the Eclair to vivid life here.

Like everyone else, I'm so very sorry for what you're going through. Like everyone else, I don't know if words--any words--are useful. But they're all I have.

We love you, MM, and we're grieving with you.
 
I'm so, so truly sorry for your loss, MM. I can't even imagine what you're going through but my heart & thoughts are with you and your family.

Annette
 
Your family is in my prayers. May you all find peace and solace.
 
I am so very, very sorry.
 
I'm so sorry.
You have my condolences.
 
I have never been here before..heard your story at Jonathans. Im so sorry. That is just awful. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
 
No words can express my horror at your loss, and your children's loss and your extended family's loss.

Much love from a long-time lurker.

Merrill
 
the spirit of your parents that you've conjured up over the course of your blog is so real to me, they're real to me... all day i've been thinking about the christmas tree story and the warmth and love it conveyed and i'm just heartbroken for you. i wish you and your family love and strength.

long time lurker
jill
 
May the lord stand by you and your family in this.

Your family is in my prayers.

*hug*.
 
I am so sorry, MM.

Your love for your family has been so obvious through your writing that there's no doubt your parents knew.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
I am so sad to hear of your tragic loss. My genuine sympathy goes out to you and your family.
 
wow. this is the saddest thing i have ever read. i'm sooooo very sorry.
 
Post a Comment



<< Home

This page is powered by Blogger. Isn't yours?

Blogarama - The Blog Directory Listed on BlogShares